Let´s get PERSONAL - When Pluto Comes for my Venus: A Journey Through the Sacred Unraveling
There are transits that stretch us.
There are transits that ask us to surrender.
And then there are transits that arrive to completely rearrange the architecture of our hearts.
Right now, I am moving through one of those transits.Pluto is trasniting for the secod time (retrograde motion) over my natal Venus retrograde in Aquarius in my 4th house, and I can feel it.. in my bones, in my breath, in the places I once called safe.
This is not soft.. this is Pluto, the relentless force of transformation, walking straight into the hidden rooms of my heart, placing a hand on the walls I once built to feel secure, and asking me, with piercing clarity: “Is this really home? Is this really love? Is this really enough for you?”
This is not comfortable or gentle. It’s not something I can tidy away with spiritual platitudes. This is raw, very exposing, and yet, it’s deeply necessary.
Pluto transiting Venus doesn’t just stir the surface of love, beauty, or connection, this one cuts to the roots and pierces the layers of what we truly value. It unearths the quiet, unspoken contracts we made with ourselves about worthiness, about love, about what we believe we are allowed to have. Pluto shows us, without mercy, where we’ve built our lives on borrowed ground, where we’ve traded truth for comfort, where we’ve clung to dynamics that have long expired, simply because they felt familiar, because we thought they were safe.
And for me, with natal Venus already retrograde, this was never going to be a light story. Much of my life has been spent navigating the edges of belonging. There’s always been a quiet question that follows me into rooms, into relationships, into the spaces I try to call home: Do I really belong here? Am I allowed to take up space? Will I be blamed if something goes wrong?
These questions are not abstract. I carry them from my childhood and previous incarnations. I feel them in my body, sharp and immediate.
When something in the house breaks, when water spills from the washing machine, when the microwave burns, a surge of anxiety shoots through me, an ancient panic that whispers: “It’s your fault. You will be punished. You’ve failed to keep things in order. You are not safe here.”
Even in the simplicity of waking from sleep, I notice the flicker of unease rising in my chest. A voice that says: “You don’t really belong here.”
The space I live in now is temporary and even when nothing is actually happening, I feel I can’t fully exhale, I’m always on alert, my nervous system still holds the blueprint of survival. Bracing…Scanning…
Pluto, now retrograding over my Venus in the 4th house, is dragging all of this to the surface. Not to punish… to liberate me.
It’s asking me to grieve the homes I never truly felt safe in, to release the silent contracts where I accepted crumbs because I once believed that was all I was worthy of, to unclench from the old stories where I had to be small, pleasing, perfect, just to stay.
Pluto is stripping me back to the foundation.
And what remains? - The real, the essential, the truth of what I actually deserve: A home that holds me, a love that cherishes me, a life where I can take up space without fear.
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When Pluto transits our personal planets, it’s never just another chapter, these are sacred initiations. They crack us open, they dismantle us, they burn away the structures we once clung to. When Pluto touches your Venus, your Moon, your Sun, your Mercury.. something foundational is rearranged. Not to harm you, but to reveal what was never fully true. What was outdated. What was built on self-abandonment. Pluto doesn’t come to soothe, it comes to expose. Pluto doesn’t care for comfort, it demands truth.
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Pluto Initiations Feel Like:
Being stripped of illusions you once clung to
Grieving identities, relationships, homes, and patterns that no longer hold
Facing deep, embedded fears of abandonment, betrayal, loss
Feeling raw, exposed, and utterly out of control
Ultimately rebuilding from a place of radical self-honoring
When Pluto transits Venus, the excavation goes straight to the heart of self-worth, attachment, relationships, finances, sensuality, beauty.
It asks you:
Do you love yourself enough to let what is false die?
Do you trust life enough to rebuild?
Can you endure the vast, uncomfortable in-between?
Pluto transits are portals into new life phases, but they never offer us shortcuts. They are teachers of death and rebirth, and we don’t learn this in theory..we learn it in the fire, in the rawness of embodied experience.
The initiation is not a moment, it’s a spiral. You will revisit the layers again and again until one day you can stand in what you’ve created and say, with steady certainty: "This is mine now. I chose this. I didn’t settle for it."
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Where I Am Now
I’m not in a hurry to finish this story.
I am learning to befriend the hollow spaces.
I am learning to soften into the grief, the waiting, the disorientation.
Because from my expreinece wuth Pluto transiting my natal Sun in Capricorn in my 4th House over the past years, I know now: Pluto never destroys what is essential, Pluto clears what cannot carry the next version of you.
I can feel the pulse of my future sanctuary now. I can sense its walls, its softness, its safety… as if it’s moving toward me as much as I am moving toward it. It’s coming closer and I am walking toward it, step by courageous step.
Pluto has burned away my tolerance for less.
What is left is the unshakable courage to build a life that feels like an exhale.
What is left is the quiet knowing that I am worthy of the home, the love, the life I once thought was too far to reach.
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If you are walking through a Pluto transit to your personal planets, I see you. I feel you. I honor the depth of what you are moving through. You are not weak because you feel unraveled and you are not broken because you are grieving what had to be released. This is not your ending, it is your becoming. You are being remade from the inside out, layer by layer, breath by breath, choice by choice.
You are worthy of a love that holds you softly.
You are worthy of a home that truly nourishes you.
You are worthy of a life where you can finally exhale..fully, freely, without shrinking.
You never have to settle.
You never have to apologize for what you long for.
You never have to prove that you are enough.
Pluto will take you to the bones, to the deepest, most essential parts of who you are. And it is from there, from that sacred core, that you will rise, stronger, clearer, truer than you’ve ever been before.
I’ve felt it most vividly in my own dating experiences. There was a time when I would have folded myself small just to be chosen. I would have softened my needs, quieted my voice, shrunk my edges in the hope that someone would stay. But not now, not here. Pluto has burned through those old patterns.
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If this speaks to you.. if you are navigating your own underworld.. I would love to hear from you. Let us hold each other through the unraveling.